We are THREE days away to a brand new year! Wow, what a year 2015 has been. Personally, it has been a journey of growth and change, and I thought it would be worthy to share some of this year’s meaningful lessons – as a reminder to myself, and to perhaps inspire you for the New Year ahead. Alright, let’s jump in.
If there is one thing I am absolutely sure of, it is the certainty of change. Nothing stays constant forever; people, situations and circumstances change, and I have learnt that the best way to face the changes in life is to embrace them. Sure, change is often uncomfortable, but it serves no good to resist. If anything, it only makes the process more uncomfortable, sometimes even painful. I have experienced myself grow, expand and evolve in a renewed way when embracing change with an open heart. It is when we allow room for expansion that our hearts become bigger and fuller, and light can illuminate areas we never realized were there all along.
This is something I am still learning to get the hang of. I suppose it is the (classic) Pisces in me that repeatedly over extends myself – I often put the needs of others first. To say I am empathetic is an understatement. I care for others deeply, sometimes at the expense of my own well-being, and adding to the equation my discovery of being an empath, I often find myself energetically and emotionally depleted. Having boundaries are important because other people can only take as much as we offer, and only we know what our limitations are. I have learnt to ask myself this very important question – If I am saying ‘Yes’ to someone, am I saying ‘No’ to myself?
We can only care for others to the extent in which we care for ourselves. I often find it hard to focus on the needs of others when I am feeling depleted and in need of some TLC myself. I have come to realize that love grows exponentially when I take the time to nuture and nourish it within myself. There is more open-mindness in approaching situations, greater patience, thoughtfulness and kindness, all of which have a positive impact in my relationships. More love for me = more love for everyone.
Speaking and living the truth can sometimes be awkward and uncomfortable. There is the fear of hurting the other person’s feelings or even losing the relationship. ‘What if they don’t like me after that comment/advice/post/photo, etc.’ – these are thoughts that have crossed my mind once too often. The truth is, we absolutely cannot please everyone. No matter how sweet and juicy the peach may be, there will be someone out there who does not like peaches. I have learnt that the best way forward is to always speak my truth from a place of love and kindness. It may not always sit well with others and I may lose people along the way, but at least I know that it comes from a place of truth and love – one which liberates and encourages positive growth.
Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to do. Very often the ego gets in the way and inhibits us from moving past old wounds. I have learnt that forgiving does not mean I accept what had been done, but rather that I have made peace with it, and am ready to move on. Forgiveness takes time and cannot be forced. Sometimes, the person that needs forgiving is myself, and I have learnt to be gentle and allow the process to flow naturally. Forgiveness softens and expands the heart to allow for more room to love.
An attitude of gratitude can change the world. I have learnt that finding something to be grateful for everyday raises my vibration and uplifts my entire mood. Consequently, this gratiude ripples out and changes even the smallest tasks I engage in and also the interactions I have with others. There is a conscious mindfulness that comes with doing things with a grateful heart. Gratitude creates a subtle vibrational shift that we may not realize immediately but is most definitely present.
What about you? What meaningful lessons did you take away from this year? What are you looking forward to in 2016?
As we move into the New Year, I wish everyone a blessed and joyful 2016.
Love & light,